Feeling like your own worst enemy? Tired of that voice in the back of your head nagging at you for every failure? We’ll show you how to change that nagging dialogue into productive discourse that’ll help you succeed. It all starts with how you relate to yourself and how you engage in self-care.
It’s easy to change the inner voice that brings us down with some mindfulness and shifting your perspective. You can talk yourself into success by changing your language, avoiding comparison to others, and searching for happiness in the right places. Dig into the rest of this article to discover how auto-suggestion techniques will help you succeed.
Never Bring Yourself down Again by Talking Your Way to the Top
Get Out There and Get Moving
It’s all too easy to get locked in front of a screen for hours on end. Getting your heart pumping and blood flowing helps you focus, reduce anxiety and stress, and may even boost creative abilities. You need not run a marathon or bike 20 miles to get these benefits. Walking up and going for a run, or even just doing some early-morning yoga, may be the push you need to focus on the positive.
Can’t dredge up the energy or motivation to exercise? Try a phone app like Wakeout. It’ll lead you through simple routines without ever leaving your bed. Depression be damned; these are easy and fun.
Avoid Comparing Yourself to Others
Goals and benchmarks are useful to give your life perspective, but focusing on others’ accomplishments is only detrimental. It’s an easy to bring yourself down and kill your drive to do anything. Keep things in perspective and focus on what you want out of life instead of what someone else already has. The grass is only greener on the other side when you’re looking at it.
Actively Search for Enjoyment in Your Life
Everyone has to walk their own path to get what they want, and unfortunately, that means there‘s no tried-and-true formula for happiness and success that works for everyone. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t focus on what others are doing right; emulating good role models and following solid advice can be a great way to “act like a duck” until change happens. Just don’t obsess over making your life perfect in every way, because no one’s life is really perfect.
Instead, spend more time enjoying your life and less time lamenting about what’s missing. Explore new hobbies and just get out there to adventure around your local neighborhood.
Every night, sit down and add to a list of what you’re grateful for. Then, make a list of things you don’t like. Fold up the dislikes and “compartmentalize” them into a small box; give yourself permission to look at them every so often, but no more than a couple of times per week. Remind yourself that you have more to love than hate every day!
Use Auto-suggestion Techniques for Motivation
You can literally talk yourself into succeeding. Yes, I know, it sounds hokey — but it‘s true! Plenty of successful people use this method so it’s not a one-off motivational gimmick. Essentially, auto-suggestion is a form of self-affirmation where you speak to yourself outloud. See this video for an example.
Talk to yourself as if you’re encouraging a friend or family member to take action. Saying mean things or being hard on them for “motivation” is about as useful as uncooked rice. Avoid being harsh or harmful; be as loving and sweet to yourself as you are to others. After all, you deserve compassion, too.
Speaking aloud to yourself is the same as speaking to your unconscious mind. Your subconscious takes everything you tell yourself to heart. So, tell your conscious what you want to hear to improve your mood and your drive to accomplish great things.
Change Your Language
Language is incredibly powerful. The way you speak shapes your thoughts almost as much as your thoughts serve to form the words you speak, meaning that both have a direct impact on each other. Pay close attention how you describe things and how you speak with others and do your best to inject more positivity wherever you can.
Need examples? Think about the vocabulary you use, or the way you talk about situations. Is everything you have to say negative? Even the worst crisis scenarios always have good in them (like the people who help you recover). Having negative thoughts is normal, but there’s no need to reinforce that to yourself through auto-suggestion.
Changing your language to a more positive tone helps yourself and those around you. It’s easy to change your gut reaction from “wow, I messed that up big time” to “I learned something valuable from that situation” when you’re mindful of your words.
Talking yourself into success might sound overly simplified, but it can be surprisingly difficult if you’ve been trapped in a negative pit of despair for any real length of time.
Look, we get it; life is hard and illnesses like Depression or Anxiety can make success feel impossible. There’s family, babies, wives, husbands and enough bills to make anyone feel overwhelmed.
We just want you to know that you deserve to be happy, successful, and proud of yourself. The challenge is to find ways to help yourself put in a tiny bit of effort to get there, and that starts with shifting your inner dialogue to be more positive.