What To Say When Someone Stops Believing In Themselves

What To Say When Someone Stops Believing In Themselves


Even the sunniest, most optimistic people we know have their days. People these days are under so much pressure, it can so easy to feel bad about ourselves. Whether it’s your best friend or a coworker who suddenly withdraws or feels down, as a good friend, you may find it difficult to find the right words to say to help them. We can help!

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Is someone in your life feeling under the weather? If you’re not sure what to say to a friend who may have stopped believing in themselves, you can help them by practicing empathy, expressing gratitude, and reminding them of their strengths. Read the rest of the article below to learn more!

Keep On Reading To Find Out How You Can Help A Discouraged Friend!

Practice Empathy

People who have stopped believing in themselves may often feel isolated from their loved ones or that people may not understand them, but reaching out to a discouraged friend is a powerful first step to take. It may feel difficult and awkward at first, but many people feel relieved when others at least try to understand them.

When you’re trying to  help a friend who has stopped believing in themselves, one of the most important steps to take is actively listening and practicing empathy. Researcher Brene Brown describes empathy as the act of recognizing feelings in others and communicating that understanding. Empathy can be profound, and it’s one of the most important ways that we, as humans, build connections with others. And these connections can be pivotal during difficult moments in our lives.

In conversation, empathy can sound like:

  • “The situation you’re in sounds really difficult, and you’re doing the best you can.”
  • “It sounds like you’re feeling very discouraged. I’m really sorry you’re going through this right now.”
  • “If I was going through those same things, I’d feel sad, too. I understand why you’d feel that way.”

Express Gratitude

Gratitude can help improve relationships as well as boost happiness. If you are trying to help a friend going through a rough patch, you can try to help them by refocusing their attention on the blessings in their lives. You can start this conversation with a question like, “It may be difficult to think about right now, but is there anything you’re grateful for in your life?”

It’s okay for you to let your friend take the lead first. If they’re struggling to think of something, try giving them a few prompts.  Most people are grateful for health, friends and family, having a warm bed to sleep in, or even just access to safe shelter.

Help Them Identify Their Strengths

For people who are in the thick of it, it can be difficult to see the forest for the trees. You can help a discouraged friend by reminding them of what they’re good at or what you appreciate about them. Maybe your friend bakes a mean apple pie or she’s especially good at throwing a party. Or, you can just remind them of how helpful they’ve been to you in the past during times of need.  for you during a time of need. People appreciate feeling needed and appreciated!

You can help someone who has stopped believing in themselves by connecting through empathy, expressing gratitude, and reminding your friend of their positive qualities. Your willingness to uplift your friend during a difficult time in their life may just be the nudge they need to feeling themselves again!

~Here’s to Your Success